Queries of Sadhaks --- part 16

QUESTIONS & ANSWERS

 Acharya Shree Ishan Shivanandji answers queries of sadhaks coming from all walks of life. Shiv Shakti Canada compile these from Shiv Yog sources so that other people having the same question in mind will get the answer from the Master himself.

Q. Just out of curiosity what if two people, accept each other the way they are, like each other and do not cross the maryada.(but have given their relation a name of boy friend and girl friend ) is it still wrong ??!!... Namah Shivay.
 

A. Namah shivay every age of life is comprised under the ashram or stage like Brahmcharya, Grihastha, Vanprastha and Sanyas. Being in the Brahmcharya ashram you shouldn’t engage in flings. If you plan to marry someone at a short notice it is then fine. Because crushes, infatuations and flings corrupt one morally. And in these raw relationships, annulment or break up is a strong possibility. This renders them impure, illegitimate, unethical, immoral and most un-spiritual. Also it was stated in the earlier post too that here we are talking of ideal spiritual life. This aspect is one of those. Many sadhaks wished to know the Shiv Yog way of going about in this age and how to handle the relationships. Blessings.

Q. Namah Shivay ...I need help... to materialise the specific characters in partner what it should be .that he should be non drinker non smoker. .. What to say at sadhna time that the words are making full of positive sense...nature, personality, family, beliefs all things...during my sadhna...when i materialising all these a fear strikes in my mind ..Negative thoughts start coming out...and that turiya avastha where you create your all things... and get distracted please tell me what to do.??? Even many times during sadhna instantly some unwanted unnecessary thoughts start coming out...sply fear...I really want to get rid of my all fears failures...please help me.namah shivay!!!

A. Namah shivay the fright and fear comes because you want it to. You are giving it undue attention. Don’t think too much about it. Just think only about the Guru. Secondly in the golden book write all the attributes of your spouse and in the end write I have got such a spouse and I would like to thank my Guru and Shiva for this. Namah shivay.

Q. Namah Shivay Ishan Bhaiya, - I have want your help in our difficult situation. We have one daughter - just 17 yrs old. She is very much addict to Mobile & Computer. Now she told us that she loves a guy who is Cousin brother of her. In this situation pl advice us - what to do? Kya hum isko iske haal me chhod de ya use woh ladke ke sath baat karne ko mana kar de??? Please reply immediately as we are so much confused & worry...!!

A. Namah shivay. Teens of their children are a difficult period for all parents to manage. But very often the mistakes committed by the offspring have its roots in the attitude of the parents. Somewhere they fail to communicate the right thing. Somewhere they fail to be a good example themselves. In your case, you need to send Sanjeevani shakti to the Manipur chakra of the child and write down in the Golden book of how you want her to be. Regular sadhna and Chandi Paath done at home precludes the possibility of such occurrences materializing at home. Do that regularly. Everything will fall in place by its own. Blessings.

Q. Namah Shivay... I just want to clear if both person have feeling for each other and if we materialise him or her and further strong bond in future it's too called vashikaran of that person?

A. Namah shivay ji. This teaching is aimed at showing the ideal path guided by the Guru. What is being stated is that in the Golden book we can’t write the name of a person. We may write the desired characteristics. Also, forging relationships, apart from those aimed at marriage is not approved of by the Guru since it is not spiritually sound or ideal. Blessings.

Q. Namah Shivay Babaji.... in the golden book can I write about the quality or attribute that I want my wife to develop in her life... I am already married...

A. Namah shivay ji if you have Sanjeevani shakti, send it to her Manipur Chakra. If you don’t, then first accept her the way she is and for her and your own betterment you can write that with a pure intention. Blessings.

Q. Namah Shivay, I understand that we should not be person specific while doing sadhana and while writing in Golden book....but please clarify me one more thing.. Can a Shivyogi continue his relationship with a girl, planning to marry her in near future with a pure intention? (and if that relationship is completely related to heart equally on both sides and if the pair is following an ethical way, which to be put in straight way that if the pair is not involving in making love and physical contact by any means?) Thank you so much!

A. Namah shivay if we can ensure that Baba ji's teachings are being followed with utmost purity, we may continue with our pursuits. But again it is being said that what this status talks about is a perfect setting or an ideal spiritual life. Because however much logic we may apply to justify our means, there is bound to be an error if we follow any other path than shown by the Guru. So always Guru's teachings without contamination must be followed. Blessings

Q. Namah shivay Ishaanji...but what should we do if we are facing depressions after break ups?

A. Namah shivay distress in life arrives only when we go astray from the path shown by the Guru. You went against the teaching of not getting into a relationship before marriage and are facing the consequences of the same. However, committing a mistake is not a sin per se. Repeating the mistake is. Acknowledge the fact that you went wrong somewhere and seek forgiveness from yourself and your Guru. Daily sadhna and Chandi Paath will lead you further into light and inner happiness. Because worldly sorrow is meaningless and the things we cry for are futile and temporary. Blessings.

Q. Ishan bhaiya,,.please answer my question too... I do sadhna more n more (from last oct 2011, mujhe babaji ki bahut spiritual kripa mili hai..I've attended 7 to 8 shivirs of babaji, Ishan bahaiya) for my partner search but still I’m alone....

A. Namah shivay Golden book is the answer to your query. Write down all the characteristics of the partner you desire in your Golden book and visualize it after every sadhna session. Merely attending shivirs will not solve our problems. The prarabd bhog is ours and only through our own sadhna can we ameliorate ourselves of the pain and suffering in life. Also, the Durga Paath if done before sadhna will multiply the release of hurdles and karmas in life. Blessings.

Q. Ishan ji himself told story of his marriage, how her respected wife materialize her marriage with him, isn't it vasikaran?

A. Namah shivay What the status talks about is the fact that wooing the opposite sex before marriage, trying to use spiritual or other means is wrong. Ishan ji was bestowed by his shakti not through any courtship of the current decadent type. Kavita ji came to him to show her kundli or horoscope. Ishan ji took her to Baba ji who through His spiritual séance ordained that the two were karmically connected. So through such an odd quirk of divine fate was born his relationship. Ishan ji is a paragon of a sadhak. He sets an example for all. To find fault with such a saintly soul would be nitpicking. It is after their marriage that the two charted their spiritual course using the Golden book. And such a process is beyond reproach. So his example too goes by what is stated in this status. Blessings.